“We prepare for the arrival of a new baby, we plan for it, we think about what we are going to buy and what we are going to call the new baby. It is part of our daily life, our conversation. Why do we not prepare for our death in the same way?”
Katherine Sleeman, Palliative Medicine Registrar, Cicely Saunders Institute

 

Knowing that our time is limited can be an invitation to seize each day and live every moment as fully as possible.

 

We are hosting a series of online events this Autumn to help us see dying as something we can plan for and manage rather than something to fear and avoid discussing.  In the wake of the COVID-19 global pandemic, our programme of events is an opportunity to explore how our approach to death, dying and bereavement has changed.

 

Talking about dying makes it more likely that you, or your loved one, will have a ‘good death’ – to die as you might wish. We don’t have to be very old or ill or morbid to start. It does not bring death any nearer but a lot of people say that thinking about what they want for themselves, and for their loved ones, can be valuable and rewarding.

 

We invite you to join the conversation online:
  1. Listen to a podcast of Dr Lynn Bassett exploring how our approach to death, dying and bereavement changed in the wake of COVID-19.
  2. 3rd November, 10.30am:  Let’s talk about death and dying
  3. 17th November, 10.30am: Memorialising (and Funerals)
  4. 1st December, 10.30am: End of Life Pastoral Care and Visiting

 

These events are jointly organised by Leeds Church Institute, Growing Old Grace-fully and Faith In Elderly People.

 

Helpful resources

“Compassion with truthfulness” Revd Dr Chris Swift, Director of Chaplaincy & Spirituality at Methodist Homes (MHA), shares some perspectives on pastoral care for bereaved people drawn from his 20 years of experience as an NHS Chaplain.

Revd Dr Keith Albans, Superintendent of York Methodist Circuit and previously Director of Chaplaincy and Spirituality at Methodist Homes (MHA), shares a piece on Memorialising based on what he and his family did for his wife Helen.  We are very grateful to Keith for sharing this very personal and moving testimony.

God of life and death, be present with us”A prayer from Revd Jan Berry for a COVID-19 WorldJan Berry is the Principal of the Open College at Luther King House Open College based in Manchester.

Watch this short interview with MHA Care Home Chaplain, Alma Fritchley, on her experiences of being alongside people who are dying

 Here’s an article from LCI’s CITYtheology magazine (page 5) by Revd. Tom Lusty, LCI member and Vicar at St Giles, Bramhope reflecting on ministry spent as a full-time hospice chaplain in the context of Covid-19. “Devoting a little space to reflect on our own dying (say ten minutes, once a week) will certainly make us more open to engage with others who may be starting out on the process of the end of life’s journey.”

The Rev. Michael Joncas composed and published ‘Shelter Me’, a prayer-song, in response to the global crisis of COVID-19.  Spiritu’s members recorded the song from the shelter of their homes.

  

Helpful websites

https://www.artofdyingwell.org/   The Art of Dying Well offers practical and spiritual support to those faced with the prospect of death and dying.  It was originally commissioned by the Catholic Bishops’ Conference of England and Wales and now belongs to St Mary’s University. “This site is not only for those who have faith, whether Catholic or not. It is for everyone.”

http://lbforum.org.uk/news-and-events/covid-19-useful-bereavement-links-and-resources/  During the COVID-19 pandemic, Leeds Bereavement Forum is collecting a list of local and national resources which they hope will be useful for those affected by bereavement.

Here are 12 short videos from the BBC  https://www.bbc.co.uk/ideas/playlists/dying-thoughts looking at how we approach and come to terms with death and dying, including this reflection from Dr Kathryn Mannix “Dying is not as bad as you think”